The Truth About Vaginal Orgasms

"It takes many women far longer than men to become fully aroused - as long as a half-hour in many cases. California sexologists William Hartman and Marilyn Fithian monitored over 20,000 orgasms and found that it takes an average of twenty minutes for women to reach orgasm in the laboratory. For many women, it can take up to a half-hour or more of sustained stimulation to move into orgasmic range."The Clitoral Truth by Rebecca Chalker:

In 1981, The Hite Report revealed that 26% of the three thousand women who participated in the study experienced orgasm regularly during vaginal intercourse, when there was no accompanying manual stimulation of their clitoris. While this study is nearly twenty years old, I have not seen any evidence that would indicate this number has changed drastically during that time period. The study also found that: 19% of the participating women rarely experienced orgasm during intercourse, 16% did so if there was manual stimulation of their clitoris at the same time, and 24% did not experience orgasm during intercourse at any time. In addition, 12% of the women had never experienced orgasm under any condition, and 3% had never engaged in intercourse. That means roughly eight out of every ten women did not experience orgasm as the result of vaginal stimulation alone.

New Study: Glamour Magazine, October 2000

Based on 1,500 women's responses to an online poll at Glamour.com

In response to the question, "Do you need extra stimulation to orgasm?" the women responded:

I need "a hand" 38%
I can do it just from intercourse 28%
I need oral sex 21%
Other 10%
I need a vibrator 3%

This reveals that over the past nineteen years the number of women who regularly experience orgasm as the result of vaginal/penile stimulation alone has not changed, 26% versus 28%. Most if not the majority of women, 62%, need direct stimulation of their clitoris if they are to experience orgasm. It is not known whether "other" included other forms of clitoral stimulation so the percentage may be higher.

Why do most women require clitoral stimulation? The answer for the most part lies in the anatomy of our sexual organs. A man's primary erogenous zone is most often his penis, a woman's is her clitoris. Considering the common embryological origins and structures of the two, this would seem to make perfect sense. The reason they are so sensitive is that they are highly populated with nerve endings. The greater the number of nerve endings an area of the body has, the more sensitive it is to stimulation. The clitoral glans has just as many nerve endings as does the penile glans, only in a much smaller area. This results in a very sensitive organ, perhaps even more so than the penis.

Since so few women masturbate by stimulating their vagina alone, it would appear it is not as sensitive to sexual stimulation as their clitoris. Analysis of the anatomy of the vagina reveals that it is not as densely populated with nerve endings as is the clitoris, and the nerves endings that are present are usually located nearer the vaginal opening. The reason the vagina is not highly populated with nerve endings is likely because it also serves as the birth canal. It would seem counter productive to have an extremely sensitive vagina when it came time for a woman to give birth.

During vaginal intercourse a man's penis is being directly stimulated by the walls of his partner's vagina, the movement of her labia minora is at best indirectly stimulating a woman's clitoris. The thrusting penis moves the labia about, tugging on the clitoris itself. Since the size and shape of women's inner labia varying so much, and given that some women do not have them, it seems unlikely that all clitorises would receive the same amount of stimulation during intercourse. A woman's clitoris may also be stimulated by her partner's pelvic bone and mound as he presses in toward her body on the forward stroke. During intercourse, a man's primary erogenous zone is being directly stimulated on all sides and a woman's primary erogenous zone is being indirectly stimulated in an inconsistent manner, should we be surprised that the man usually experiences orgasm but the woman does not?

Another factor to consider is time. A man on average can masturbate to orgasm in three minutes, a woman in five minutes(*). Under what may be considered ideal conditions, a man usually reaches orgasm two minutes before a woman. Take this information and apply it to intercourse, where the man is receiving direct stimulation and the woman is receiving indirect stimulation and you can see how this time difference can grow astronomically. If a woman does not receive the same intensity of stimulation, and for the same duration, as she does while masturbating, it is easy to see how she would never reach orgasm during intercourse. It becomes very improbable, no matter how long the man continues to thrust. The ingredients for an orgasm just are not there.

A Question of Time

* Here is a quote from the book The Clitoral Truth by Rebecca Chalker:

"It takes many women far longer than men to become fully aroused - as long as a half-hour in many cases. California sexologists William Hartman and Marilyn Fithian monitored over 20,000 orgasms and found that it takes an average of twenty minutes for women to reach orgasm in the laboratory. For many women, it can take up to a half-hour or more of sustained stimulation to move into orgasmic range."

My statement about women being able to masturbate to orgasm in five minutes is only meant to make a point; that even for women who can quickly masturbate to orgasm, they still usually take longer than the average man to do the same. I certainly would not say there is a benefit to reaching orgasm so quickly, unless you are trying to hide what you are doing, which is often the case for children, teens, and women living with partners and family. The five minute time period was obtained from the book How Big is Bigby Dr. Zev Wanderer & Dr. David Radell that used information from two other sources. I do not feel couples should expect sex to last less than half an hour or that there is a benefit in being able to. We spend far too little time showing our partner physical affection as it is without trying to make every sexual experience a quickie. If you do not have half an hour or more to make love to your partner, then you need to make the time.



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